HELP.THEM.HEAL WORKSHOP FOR PROFESSIONALS
Friday, June 23 2023, 11:00am - 3:00pm Central
This workshop will help clinicians and coaches to do early recovery couples work. It will be a summary of ways that professionals can layout the early recovery couples work to provide safety so they can focus on the ERCEM exercises to do the 3 - phase work. We will go through 2 exercises in each phase to help move the couple through the needed safety by teaching skills that will enhance communication and boundaries. We will also be going over 2 exercises that processes anger, grief, mourning and loss. Lastly professionals will learn how to help couples identify when they are working towards or are in post-traumatic growth so that they can experience the relief from Partner Betrayal and Sex Addiction and take on a new identity as a couple. You will be given some new worksheets for each phase.
Book Needed:
"Help.Them.Heal" To order book click here: HELP.THEM.HEAL Book
Registration Cost: $299 or get an early bird rate of $249 (ending June 18th at midnight)
Cancellation Policy: Please send your cancellation request in writing to info@carolthecoach.com. Your refund or credit will be subject to a $100 cancellation fee. If within 30 days of event no refund will be made.
Help.Her.Heal. Workshop for Professionals
Friday, June 30 2023, 09:00am - 1pm Central
This workshop is for professionals who would like to start a 12-week Help.Her.Heal Group. The Workshop Teaches Professionals How to Run Virtual Groups for Men following the Help.Her.Heal Model. (Should you want to start a group for women we can adapt the materials for females. I do not advocate mixed groups because of partner sensitivity.) The workshop includes handouts that emphasize the books’ central themes and theories to aid in the formulation of empathy and other relational skills including shame resiliency.
You will learn which concepts to reinforce to expedite their success and you will receive the PowerPoint Presentation that I use for my 12-week group. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel. I will also share my link to the video that I show in group called “The Brain Science of Partner Trauma.
Once you have taken the training, you will be given a certification of completion and I will add you to a directory of professionals who have taken this training on my website for potential referrals.
The training is $299. There is a $50.00 off Early Bird Special until June 25, 2023
Cancellation Policy: Please send your cancellation request in writing to info@carolthecoach.com. Your refund or credit will be subject to a $100 cancellation fee. If within 30 days of event no refund will be made.
Helping Couples Heal the ERCEM Way
Friday, July 14, 2023 9:00am - 4:00pm Central
Please join Carol the Coach for a day of healing and restoration as she walks you and your partner through a roadmap teaching you how to heal your relationship AFTER sexual betrayal.
Carol authored the wonderfully popular book, Help.Her.Heal, and has seen men successfully heal with her techniques. She wrote Help.Them.Heal as an educational workbook for couples to jointly understand and manage their journey through the complex healing process of betrayal.
HOPE STARTS HERE
This workshop will include:
• Information explaining what the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal are; • Hands on support as you work through 6 exercises showing how this model creates safety and stabilization for the betrayed partner.
• Encouraging insight as you practice actual exercises to teach you how to move into the final phase of post-traumatic growth.
But, best of all, Carol understands where you are and has seen relationships restored by consistently using ERCEM tools to reignite empathy in marriages.
Registration per couple $795 with Early Bird of $695 until midnight July 9th 2023.*
Cancellation Policy: Please send your cancellation request in writing to info@carolthecoach.com. Your refund or credit will be subject to a $100 cancellation fee. If within 30 days of event no refund will be made.
Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM) Training
September 26-29, 2023, 9:00am - 4:00pm Central
This training takes your skills to the next level. Carol the Coach is the first clinician to have developed an Empathy Model that teaches the sex addict to promote healing throughout all 3 phases of Partner Betrayal.
The goal of Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model Training is to provide the gold standard of care for professionals in facilitating relational skills that are healthy, safe, and effective for couples seeking to restore their relationship after sex addiction and partner betrayal.
Professionals will learn empathy and relational skills that they can use with their clients which will enhance working through the 3 Phase Model of Partner Betrayal developed from the APSATS MPTM Model.
Fee: $850 or early bird fee of $750 (ending September 21st at midnight) *
Book Needed: Help.Them.Heal
The professional does not need to read the entirety of the book prior to training.
Learning Objectives of the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model
- Describe in detail the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model
- The goal of the Empathy Certification is to provide the gold standard of care in facilitating relational skills that are healthy, safe, and effective for couples seeking to restore their relationship after compulsive sexual behaviors and partner betrayal.
- Professionals will learn empathy and relational skills that they can share with their clients which will enhance working through the 3 Phase Model of Partner Betrayal derived from Judith Hermann’s Trauma Model.
- Beginning Early Recovery Couples Work to establish a foundation at intake to assess the need for therapeutic and support services.
- Simultaneously, work with the couple to co-create a treatment plan for safety, stabilization, support and relational skills.
- List relational skills related to integrating this model of treatment that are healthy, safe, and effective for couples seeking to restore their relationship after compulsive sexual behaviors and partner betrayal
- Identify empirically researched theories and skill related to effective trauma response and treatment for the partner
- List and discuss the various ethical issues related to this population
- Examine the cultural complexities of doing Empathy work with different cultures
- Learn empathy and relational skills that they can share with their clients which will enhance working through the 3 Phase Model of Trauma.
- Explore the need for assisting the couple with staying in distress tolerance so that they can decrease the intensity and frequency of triggers and reactivity
- Examine and explore mindfulness techniques that decrease the activation of a survival response to danger
- Utilize the Help Her Heal Model to teach the addict important fundamental relational skills to provide the necessary foundation of safety and attend to the emotional needs of the spouse and the relationship.
- Proceed with the Help.Them.Heal Model which identifies the many tools that couples can utilize to walk through the need for safety, anger, grief and mourning, and post traumatic growth phases of early recovery couples empathy work.
- Assess the need for therapeutic and support services during this crisis to establish a baseline support effort when the couple comes in at intake.
- Simultaneously, work with the couple to co-create a treatment plan for safety, stabilization, support and relational skills.
- Understand how the addict must establish and maintain recovery by utilizing the 10 Recovery Tool Process.
- Learn the 3-part process of seeking truth and finding her voice after discovery with the relationship.
- Assessing willingness to begin the ERCEM in ERCW.
- Understanding the brain science behind partner betrayal and how that effects the beginning stages of safety and stabilization.
- Expose the brain science of addiction and the necessary steps to obtain good relational and sobriety recovery.
- Learn to recognize the 4 types of communication that is present between couples.
- Teaching the relational CPR of trigger busters.
- Recognize cognitive distortions and how to increase shame resiliency.
- Demonstrate ways of reformatting maladaptive perceptions of the self through the use of reality affirmations and other techniques that neutralize cognitive wounding
- Formulate empathy-building skills that acknowledge the problematic behavior, validate the experience and provide measurable opportunities for growth
- Learn relational skills to acknowledge the grief that has occurred because of Sex Addiction that allows for the externalization of anger, grief and mourning.
- Teach clinical/coaching skills that encourage working through the anger of partner betrayal using the spouse as a conduit for safety.
- Using metaphors to unconsciously create change.
- Learn how to brainstorm with the couple how to create opportunities for the partnership to give back.
- Define post traumatic growth and provide self-assessment tools.
*ERCEM TRAINING CANCELLATION POLICY:
Within 15 Days of Event: No refunds will be made.
Refunds: Please send your cancellation request in writing to info@carolthecoach.com. Your refund or credit will be subject to a $100 cancellation fee. If within 15 days of event, no refund will be made. (If you are not able to attend the training due to emergent reasons, we will allow you to take a future training for an additional $50 cost.)